Sexist assumptions

I went to a pub near my place with my (male) friend. One of the owners of the pub happened to be there so he joined us at the table. The owner asked us what we would like to drink. My friend ordered a beer. I requested for water. This was the 3rd pub we visited that evening. (The first pub was too noisy for a conversation, the 2nd pub served his beer with too much foam.) My friend suggested that I order some alcohol because I drank water at the previous 2 pubs. I said I wanted water. The owner suggested that I order juice or a cocktail. I repeated that I wanted water. While we were still talking about what I should order, a waiter returned with a glass of orange juice!

Because there was no harm in drinking orange juice other than getting a sugar-overload I had my dinner, I ate 1/4 of my friend's food and had a whole tiramisu to myself) and I didn't want to get my friend upset, I didn't reject it.

Do people actually listen to the answer when they ask a question?

In the owner's best interest, of course he would serve me an over-priced $10 glass of orange juice, especially if it looked like my friend is paying so he calls the shots. The owner was trying to please him and, at the same time, earn $10. Why do people assume that the man always pays? And even if the man pays, shouldn't the "little lady" be allowed to drink what she wants?

Although their decision to serve me orange juice was a business decision, I find it completely SEXIST. Why can't I get water when I asked for water?? If I were a man who insisted on drinking water, would they have given me water instead of orange juice?

The owner mistook me to be my friend's employee. That's so SEXIST again. Must the man be the employer? Perhaps he thought I was the employee because I was carrying plastic wrappers and freebies which my friend gave me from his warehouse to prepare for my home removal.

By the end of the night, it was impossible to stay alcohol-free. Although I did not drink any alcohol, I had beer all over me. My friend accidentally knocked over his beer while trying to show the pub owner my blog on his iPad. Fortunately, I was not wearing a white t-shirt!

My friend had given me a nice red MIC Plastics t-shirt in my "goodie bag" (he is sponsoring my home removal and I still have a goodie bag! wow!) so I could have changed into that but my shorts were wet too :( I went home shortly after that.

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baddoggerel said...

It depends on their motivation for asking the question. If they genuinely have your interests at heart, they'll listen to the answer. If they're just asking to be polite, or to keep a conversation going longer, or to sell you something, then they may not care what your answer is. Unfortunately I'm as guilty of this as anyone else.

Anonymous said...

No one go pub to drink water. If everyone go to pub to drink water, how do you pub to survive?

Anonymous said...

Good girl! Make sure you drink water so that people can't take advantage of you when you are drunk.

This is specially true for American's - they will cultivate their targetted victim by getting them drunk, and then robbing them or rapping them. They may sweet talk you so that the girl will marry them because they need a meal ticket to get Singapore PR inorder to escape the poverty, homelessness, and joblessness of USA. They may even force you to work as prostitute or porn star in order to support their life style!

David said...


An interesting if not frustrating evening.

Your male companions lack of speaking up for you is revealing. He should insisted the pub owner give you water, and he should have made it known you were self-employed. His behaviour is disappointing.

I agree you were treated poorly, perhaps even in the sexish fashion you suggest.

Was your companion inebreiated when he spilled his beer on you? Or do thing the men were hoping you would put the dry shirt at the table?

I trust your home renovations and move went better the last few days than your night out.

BTW, today my wife and I enjoyed the best pizza in the world at Smackwater Jack's!

A very unique Sesame seed crust with fresh veggies. Very yummy!

Have a great week!


Our Adversary majors in three things: noise, hurry and crowds. If he can keep us engaged in "muchness" and "manyness," he will rest satisfied.

-- Richard J. Foster

Anonymous said...

i think the pub owner is just being irritating. & the rest of u dun have to get so agitated la, not as if u'al also feel the same abt the sexist thg pls!
YK writes & thinks this way simply because she is, well, YK. tts y she is the "Prominent blogger, renowned for her straight-forward postings on (sex-related) issues."
can some of the wanna-be comments give us a break!!

Anonymous said...

$10.00 for orange juice! Then how much is the price of beer?

"Our Adversary majors in three things: bullshit, bullshit and more bullshit! Hotair, hotair and more hotair! No wonder they are paper tigers".

-- Mao

Anonymous said...

David, since you are so boastful of American army, what do you think of this:-

US soldiers accused of killing Afghans 'for sport'

WASHINGTON (AFP) – A group of US soldiers is facing accusations of randomly targeting and killing Afghan civilians for sport, The Washington Post reported Sunday.
Citing army legal documents and interviews with people involved in the case, the newspaper said the case involved rogue members of a platoon from the 5th Stryker Combat Brigade, 2nd Infantry Division.
The game started last winter, when one Afghan man approached the soldiers in the village of La Mohammed Kalay, the report said.
As the man neared, one soldier created a ruse that they were under attack, tossing a fragmentary grenade on the ground, the paper noted. Then others opened fire, killing the man.
According to The Post, the unprovoked attack on January 15 was the start of a months-long shooting spree against Afghan civilians that resulted in some of the grisliest allegations against American soldiers since the US invasion in 2001.

David said...



I will not take your bait.
Your hatred of the United States is known to all who read your words.

I will not waste time with people who are biased and unmoving.

This is for you:


On days when life is difficult and I feel overwhelmed, as I do fairly often, it helps to remember in my prayers that all God requires of me is to trust Him and be His friend. I find I can
do that.

-- Bruce Larson

Anonymous said...


Don't call that "Hatred of USA". You are simply trying a "blame game". Anon is telling the world the truth about USA whereas you are trying to white wash everything and lie your arse off!

Why do you marry a local Singapore girl just to get SG PR and stole local Singaporean's jobs if USA is so wonderful?!

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David said...


You found like minded American politicians!

BTW, Peter Stark is considered a nut case and will lose BIG on Nov. 2.

Pothead! Yes, in a free society even these guys can spout what they want.

The rest of us,(vast majority) just ignore them. The druggies eventually do themselves in.

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Affliction comes to the believer not to make him sad, but sober; not to make him sorry, but wise. Even as the plow enriches the field so that the seed is multiplied a thousandfold, so affliction should magnify our joy and increase our spiritual harvest.

-- Henry Ward Beecher

Yu-Kym said...

Anon, I drink water but my friend drank beer. Give me what I want (water) -> I'll be happy -> I sit there longer with my friend -> My friend orders more beer -> Next time I might go back to the same pub and bring another friend. If I'm not happy, I won't go back to the same pub with a friend who orders alcohol.

Anon, I've never drank till I'm drunk but drinking affects my ability to think rationally.

David, my friend did not spill beer on me intentionally. He called me the next day to ask me whether I was angry with him and he sponsored my moving :)

Mao, I didn't see the bill but it was past happy hour so I think the beer must have cost quite a bit too.