Nothing in life is certain but death

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Perhaps the superstitious belief that talking about death brings death stops people from talking about it. I assure you that I'm not depressed or pessimistic when I talk about death. After all, the only thing in life which we can be sure of is death so why shouldn't I talk about it?

Today, a man died. Today, a woman is widowed and 2 children lost their father.

Everything happened so quickly. Less than a month ago, the man appeared normal. Now he's lying in a morgue.

I wonder whether anyone said to them, "Don't worry, he will be ok," when he was hospitalised for leukaemia. [He was the man I referred to in this newspaper article]

He is gone but is he ok? Some might believe he's gone to a better place (heaven) or reincarnated. But even if there is no such thing as heaven or reincarnation, can I believe that he is ok?

We all must die someday. Death is part of life. Maybe he is ok. Dead or alive, all will be ok.

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7 comments:

~Pink Miu Miu~ said...

So true! That's why liFe is short and unpredictable thus make the best of every day and share whatever you know and have learnt with the rest..

So at least one day when you are gone, u dun leave completely but left behind a legacy :).

David said...

Yu-Kym,

Your friend's passing is indeed sad news.

One has to wonder if your friend had been diagnosed sooner. Many people, men more than women, put off routine checkups.

This attitude towards health on occasions as you described above end up as you stated -"Less than a month ago, the man appeared normal. Now he's lying in a morgue.

I trust you and others will rally and show support for the widow and her children.

David

Be thankful for the least gift, so shalt thou be ready to receive greater.

-- Thomas à Kempis

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Anonymous said...

Hey Yu-Kym.

My mother has just died of leukemia during July this year, right after her transplant when all of us thought that she would be able to make it through. Well chemotherapies brings much pain to any individual (my mom once commented that the pain that she's enduring during chemotherapy is way worser than childbirth) , so perhaps death itself is a blessing in disguise?

When a person dies, we feel sad. But on further analysis with a cool mind, we're actually grieving over our loss instead of rejoicing over the deceased's release from their mortal bonds. Just a food for thought, and piece of my mind.

A human's lifespan is insignificant as compared to the evolutionary timeline. The only permanent thing that governs the world is impermanence. Sometimes, well, to make ourselves feel better over dark times, just think about how small we are as compared to the universe. Shits that we've been receiving? No big deal yo!

I hope you feel better over your friend's death Yu-Kym. And keep blogging! I love reading from your blog. It's inspiring.

Keep it up! Cheers :)

- June

Yu-Kym said...

Pink Miu Miu, I don't know about legacy but I sure don't want to leave a mess for people to clear up!

David, the man is my friend's friend. I saw some statistics that support what you wrote about men being more likely than women to postpone health checks. But women sure are guilty of postponing one particular type of health check: pap smear! I hate going for that check!

Hi June, I'm sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing especially your insight "we're actually grieving over our loss instead of rejoicing over the deceased's release from their mortal bonds" and "The only permanent thing that governs the world is impermanence". I might quote you on those!

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David said...

Yu-Kym,

I sympahtize with my wife. She has informed me in great detail of the discomfort a women goes through for the pap smear, altough in her opinion a mammogram is the nastiest and most painful exam. If you have yet to experience a mammogram since you are less than 50yrs of age, think of this.

A mammogram is done by squezing a womens breast as flat as possible to take the x-ray. Uncomofortable is one way of describing such an exam.

I worked in health care for 20+ years, and am used to being poked and probed.

Not fun, but I am reasonably healthy!

David

We never become truly spiritual by sitting down and wishing to become so. You must undertake something so great that you cannot accomplish it unaided.

-- Phillips Brooks