Why men encourage women to get married

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It's not because men want women to be happy; it's because men want men to be happy.

1. Men need sex
During times of war when men must leave their families to go to war, there will be many whorehouses in the areas. Women don't turn lesbian or rape the young boys. Not all men like paying for sex - they prefer to get it for free so they have to convince and encourage women to be attached/married.

2. Men need their mothers
Many men look to their wives as replacement for their mothers. They need someone to "mother" them into taking care of their health. Many young (and old - they can be over 35 years old and their mothers still wash their slimy underwear!) men do not wish to move out of their parents' place until they get married because they do not want to handle their own cooking, cleaning, tidying, washing and ironing. Also, it's useful to have a financial contributor to pay for the groceries and to subsidise an upgrade to a larger TV. [read: Men marry for money]

3. Men have emotional needs
Of course men have emotional needs! I get it! They love to share their opinions and "knowledge"! They need a ready audience. Girlfriends and wives are ready (and sometimes unwilling) audience. The only way to get them to stop talking is to put them in front of the television and serve them cans of beer. And as if listening to them talk isn't bad enough, they expect women to do as they say! Women many be able to distract them with sex but only monetarily because their ego still needs to be satisfied.

It's no wonder most widows don't re-marry but go on to live for many years after their husbands pass away!

Not many woman would dare to or bother to tell men to their faces. If your first instinct is to argue against what I've written - that's why women couldn't be bothered to tell you.

Note:
- I'm not saying that women don't do the same but that's not the topic of discussion.
- I didn't say all men are like that.

23 comments:

Anonymous said...

Yu-Kym

I didnt know you make a ludricrously hilarious stand-up comedian too? lol (I did actually imagine you on stage telling each of the above satirical snippets to an appreciative audience of applauding females. And some males like me too! You try it! You will be able to see how amusing a spectacle you are! lol).

You should have your own show in Clarke Quay or your own tv programme in Channel 5!

Gosh you sure are very multi-talented! lol

curious cat

Anonymous said...

All the above points might be true for past years but might not be for modern days.

1.)Men rather pay for sex than free sex since there are so many choices out that in the sex trade and men are earning relatively well.
2.) Men do need their mothers but not all women can fulfill the duties just as well sad to say. That is why some household engage maids.

kumar said...

Hmm, you missed out item 4 - men just love to be nagged by women.. :p

David said...

Yu-Kym,

Baiting your male followers!

This can be turned around.

-Women need sex.
-Women need their fathers.
-Women have emotional needs.

IOW, men and women complement and complete the other.

I am not so sure that women do not rape young boys. The past few years here in the States, more than a few young,(typically young), female teachers have been brought up on sexual assault charges for having sex with teen age male students.

Did I mention I know at one Singaporean young women who loves to share her knowledge and opinions, and always seems to have an audience.

OTOH, you have only touched the surface on these complex topics. I applaud however, how you get our attention.

David

Joy is the experience of knowing that you are unconditionally loved.

-- Henri Nouwen

Anonymous said...

David,

Yu-Kym may bait the majority of her male followers, but not me! I find her blog on this subject more amusing then anything and therefore don't warrant any serious response!

But come to think of it, I'm not one of her followers. As long as she posts interestingly, I dont't mind to stay tuned to what she has to say! Till her posts no longer interests me.

In the meantime, I say to Yu-Kym keep them coming, you are doing a good job of it.

curious cat

Anonymous said...

Kumar,

"men just love to be nagged by women"

you must be kidding right? lol

curious cat

Anonymous said...

Anonymous,

You must also be joking that there is such a thing as "free sex" right?

Yu-Kym tried to bait us men with the "free sex" thing..but I thought it's more amusing and funny than anything serious. Where in the world is there such thing as "free sex"?

Then, you appear to get caught up with it and I fear actually believe it?

If you truly believe, quote me some examples where sex is "truly truly free"!

curious cat

Yu-Kym said...

curious cat, but all these are so true! As for the "free sex" part, men pay for it in other ways but many would prefer not to pay for it outright but indirectly by buying gifts, chauffeuring the woman around, etc. So I agree, that's no such thing as free sex.

anon, 1) If men rather pay for sex, then why do they bother to seek sex on the Internet? 2) Not all men can afford maids so they get married instead.

Kumar, it's the men who enjoy nagging at women these days!

Anonymous said...

Yu-Kym,

Yes, I am of the view that if you think it deeply and broadly enough, sex has actually a cost....if not obvious, it's hidden somewhere. There's really no such thing as free sex! Marriage to get so-called "free sex" has actually plentiful of "costs" hehe. Free sex with a girl also incur risks of being infected by STDs or being accused of rape, molest etc. And also giving the girl the impression that having sex with her means having her as your girlfriend....or you love her. You're trapped whichever way u think. So sex is actually not free at all.

Men who "nag" at women actually have some feminine traits in them. That's why they nag. hehe

curious cat

Anonymous said...

You pay for sex one way or the other, except prostitutes are honest about their price.

-gringo

CharlieTT said...

Hi Yu-Kym

Before I comment on the issue, I would like to say that I enjoy reading your blog and will give you full support for your effort. I love your boldness, and you looked fabulous.

It seems to me your perspective is a bit pessimistic as far as the topic is concerned. I guess most men would agree on the followings:

a. Get married becoz he has found someone he truely loves and would like to spend the rest of his life with her. More importantly is to have lots of sex with her. For this reason, he has to marry her as having sex with her outside a wedlock is unfair to his woman, I am talking lots of sex.

b. The man is old enough and wishes to set up his own family and to have children of his own. Seeing one's own children growing up is one big reward in life.

c. Financially, it should be both parties' responsibility to make it work. That means to say both have to contribute based on his or her capability. Money is never an issue if both parties practiced prudent in planning the finance, for example buying a smaller house, live beyond one's mean. Remember the family belongs to both.

BTW, I have this formula for you - true love = good sex = marriage = happiness.

Charlie TT

Anonymous said...

Gringo,

Perhaps prostitutes are honest about their prices, but you not only get repeatedly used parts but fake orgasms as well! That's why they have to be honest about their prices! lol

But are they that honest? I'm not too sure. If they can fleece you, they will!

curious cat

Anonymous said...

CC,

"Perhaps prostitutes are honest about their prices, but you not only get repeatedly used parts but fake orgasms as well! That's why they have to be honest about their prices! lol"

In the first place, if i paid for their service, i couldn't care less about their orgasms. I do care about my orgasm. If you have a wife, are you sure that she didn't fake her orgasm to stroke your ego? Repeated used parts? You sure that "lovely demure" wife that loves you don't have used parts as well?

What is the price for that maybe once a month lousy sex with your wife? 50K wedding and a recurring costs?

"But are they that honest? I'm not too sure. If they can fleece you, they will!"

Yes they are honest, just pay and get it over and done with. Wham bam thank you ma'am. YOUR singaporean wife will skin you alive under the women's charters when she files for divorce.

-gringo

Anonymous said...

Gringo,

hahaha You are absolutely right that if i pay for her service, why should i care about her orgasm? What a duffer I am! haha lol

But i know any wife of mine would have only parts that I only get to use and also repeatedly use as well! And I too know for sure her orgasms are all genuine! lol

You're a funny guy Gringo! I leant something from you today about prostitutes! lol

curious cat

Anonymous said...

CC,

"But i know any wife of mine would have only parts that I only get to use and also repeatedly use as well! And I too know for sure her orgasms are all genuine! lol"

You sure about that? Too naive CC. Many wives screw around these days. Other guys might be sharing "parts" of her too. I'm sure their "parts" have been used before you married her (not that i care if i girl is virgin or not). At least those prostitues got paid for it.

About the orgasm part, trust me you won't know if she faked it. Ask Yu-Kym.

Yeah i've been told i'm a funny guy many times. Good that you learnt something about prostitues today. You wanna learn more, just "pay" them a visit. Pun intended.

-gringo

Anonymous said...

Lol Gringo,

Haha i cant stop laughing when u mention Yu-Kym. And I am still laughing about my duffness about prostitutes whenever i think about what u said. It will stay with me forever.

And lastly you know the woman i marry or i know her better? lol

Thanks for the laughs again. You should pair up with Yu-Kym as stand up comics! And yes this duffer knows too that orgasms can be faked. Right Yu-Kym? lol

curious cat

Yu-Kym said...

curious cat, indeed you will not know when a woman is faking orgasms.

gringo, I agree if men want only sex they are better off paying for it.

Charlie, the reasons you stated only support what I said about "It's not because men want women to be happy; it's because men want men to be happy." There's nothing wrong with anyone wanting to be happy. It's just that women should be aware that men's advice is in the interest of men not women.

Anonymous said...

"It's just that women should be aware that men's advice is in the interest of men not women".

Gosh Yu-Kym...so one-sided! keke

curious cat

Anonymous said...

CC, i hope for your sake, you do know her better. Cheers!

-gringo

Anonymous said...

Thanks Gringo,

I sure hope the woman I marry I best know her the "bestest"! But like we all agree, orgasms can be faked. We can even mimic a woman's orgasms too can't we? I'm sure you do it best! lol

By the way Yu-Kym, can u mimic the sound and/or physical expression of a man's orgasms? lol

curious cat

Yu-Kym said...

curious cat, men's advice is one-sided! That's why I have to write about it from a woman's point of view.

CharlieTT said...

Hi Yu-Kim

Yes, everyone wants to be happy, men and women alike. It's common to see women proposing for ONS nowadays. So, who is happy or rather happier? It's really a matter of personal choice.

BTW, I love reading the discussions and debate in your blog.

Happy long weekend all
CharlieTT

Yu-Kym said...

CharlieTT, both can be happy because happiness is also personal choice :) Have a good weekend!