His loss, my gain

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A woman was sharing with her friends that she has eaten from the "international buffet". When a male friend heard it, he commented that she "lost out". She replied, "It's not my loss, it's my gain!"

Why do people think that the man has gained and the woman has lost?
I think it's the other way round.

1. Men lose sperm.
Women gain sperm.
2. Men usually get one orgasm per session.
Women can get multiple orgasms.
3. Men usually are able to perform sex once a day or on alternate days.
Women can have sex many times a day.
4. On dates, men usually pay for meals and for hotel room.
Women get gifts and free meals.
5. Where paid sex is concerned, men have to pay for sex.
Women get paid for sex.

So whose gain is it?

18 comments:

Clear Blue Skies said...

If one party "gained" HIV, is it a *gain*?

Yu-Kym said...

That's called sharing...

Clear Blue Skies said...

I thought that's called SLAYING!

Anonymous said...

As in this world where god created many things inperfect or flawed, invariably the women loses out when compared to men! There are exceptions where women emerge in the upper hand or dominant party but these are few and far between.

It is an unfair world not only towards women.

curious cat

aaron said...

you forgot the most important gain - pleasure. during good sex both parties gain pleasure so there are no losers, unless the guy ejaculates prematurely then theres no winner lol

Yu-Kym said...

Things that I think both gain are not listed in this post. Women supposedly have stronger orgasms:
http://yu-kym.blogspot.com/2010/06/women-deserve-better-and-more-orgasms.html
Even if the guy ejaculates prematurely, it does not mean there's no pleasure derived by both, right?

Anonymous said...

Excuse my dumbness... but what is "international buffet" Yu-Kym? I have not been in the loop for a long time lah.

I presume it means the woman has had sex with a multitude of men?

is that it?

curious cat

Anonymous said...

Imperfections in God's creations have resulted in women almost always emerging 2nd best, the losing or suffering party, the weaker or subordinate sex (in spite of them being more enduring and living longer, etc).

Achieving a higher pleasure level of orgasms or whatever is superficial and does not detract from what's reality..... that women will never be more superior than men in the overall nature of things.

They will almost always lose out. Sadly women deserve to be at least on par with men..but its never meant to be...coz
the Creater created her to not be so.

curious cat

Yu-Kym said...

curious cat, international buffet is multi-national. Whether the man or woman is best or second best is a matter of perspective.

Anonymous said...

I disagree with the 3rd point; men can have sex several times a day. Personally speaking, I've enjoyed it up to 5 times in a day before.

Anonymous said...

yes, 3-5 times aday is normal...
:)

Anonymous said...

OIC, so "international buffet" means having sex with ppl of different nationalities. tq for the education.

Man or Woman, who is the more superior or dominant sex? It's not perspective, it's reality, unfortunately! Many examples in everyday life that this is so!

Only some exceptions it is the other way round.

curious cat

Anonymous said...

I dont understand what has the ability of one sex to have sex many times a day than another sex, the gaining and losing of sperm, the no. of orgasms, the payment for meals or for sex got to do with having one sex having gain or lost out to the other?

The subject heading is interesting and has potential for more controversial debate but the examples or illustrations are the "stupidest"!

curious cat

Yu-Kym said...

In the first place, it's stupid to say that a woman has "lost out"! It'll be more stupid to have a serious debate over a stupid statement!

Anonymous said...

The thinking of a male chauvinist goes something like this...i think...:

"Yes yes yes...last night i manage to lie to her and she swallowed my story hook, line and sinker. She is conned into sleeping with me. She's cheap coz she's into international buffet. But nevermind I had a good time with her whichever way i want. She's a free thrill and she deserves what she got from me. This morning it's adios from me till another man have his fun with her. He'll be having fun too! But never mind, i already had mine. I gain."

So Yu-Kym, do u think the girl lost in the MCP's eyes? Do you think there are many more MCPs out there?

In this scenario, it might not be so stupid a remark from a man after all!

Conversely, an FCP may also utter the same thing about the man!

The one scenario when its for sure one party "loses out" is when he/she caught STD from the other!

Then it's really not a stupid remark about stupid ppl losing out.

curious cat

Jeryc said...

Well, men are generous... But problem with us men is that... That bloody smirk will stay on at least a week..

Hi Kym.. Long time no see.. :-)

Anonymous said...

Jeryc,

why do you think there's that smirk?

and why do u think Yu-Kym says "it's stupid to say that a woman has "lost out"?

curious cat

Yu-Kym said...

That's why I'm saying here: it's a matter of perspective.
Society, culture and religion have taught us to take one perspective. I'm questioning whether it makes sense.