Even if your penis or vagina is on your forehead, sexual health does not show on your face

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When I showed the picture of a guy to a friend, he commented that the guy looks like he's got some sexually transmitted diseases (STD). Strange. The guy did not have a sunken face or a wasted body. Is there really such a thing as an "STD look"?? I asked my friend for clarification. He said it was just a look and he couldn't explain it.

A few months later, this expert friend of mine told me that he had unprotected sex with a (female) friend. I asked him why he didn't use a condom. He replied that it should be ok. I asked him what that meant. He said she looks she "clean". Is there such a thing as a "clean" look??

It's crazy for him to assume that someone has STD or not just by looking at the person! If it was possible to diagnose it from someone's appearance, why would we need blood tests? Sexually transmitted infections (STI) and diseases usually have incubation periods and some remain asymptomatic, i.e. there are no symptoms, for years.
E.g. For a person infected with Herpes, initially there will be blisters. Some people do not even see or feel the blisters. After that there will be no symptoms during the stage when the virus travels to the nerves near the spine and multiplies.

Some STI's don't even show up in standard blood tests.
E.g. Human papillomavirus (HPV). For women, a pap smear - not a standard blood test - is required but is not 100% accurate. There are certain strains of HPV that cannot be detected. (There are more than 100 strains of HPV.) A person infected with HPV can also have no symptoms.

And by the way, the woman with whom he slept with had left her husband to be with her lover. My friend was not her lover. I assume she has unprotected sex with her lover because she had unprotected sex with my friend. Who knows how many "friends" she has and how many "friends" her lover had! So how did he arrive at the conclusion that she is "clean"? I have no idea what some people are thinking!

2 comments:

David said...

Yu-Kym,

Both friends, the one who made the strange judgement of a photo, and the one who had unprotected sex, are either truly clueless, and in the case of your friend who dislikes condoms. Well that man is in denial.

He thinks because a young lady looks clean, smells clean that she has no STD!

A women may not be aware she carries an STD until she potentially has had sex with many men.

Ignorance in this case could be life threatening.

Great post!

David

PS: I tried to register to give my vote, and my phone area code made me ineligible.
Sorry!

You have my complete moral support!

Anonymous said...

Sigh ......., it is easier said than done.

Most of us are so hyped up prior to having a romp in bed, we tend to judge the book by its cover.

So if the partner looks like Tom Cruise or Scarlet Johanesson, and smells lovely as you lick and tickle their nether regions, and the anticipation is building up to a fever pitch in your brain; who will think of STDs?

How does it look if you were to stop Tom Cruise as he is inciting all those goosebumps on your back, and tell him to put on the condom because you think he might have STD?

Great for the mood, Yeah?

Heh, Heh, Heh, Leo