A useless rock reflects the value of a woman

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Whenever a woman gets engaged, all her friends (and enemies) would want to see her ring. A big diamond on the ring is good, a small diamond is bad; A ring purchased from Tiffany's is better than one purchased from the low-end shops like Taka jewellery. Other aspects of the diamond don't really matter because most people won't know anything valuation of diamonds. If the diamond is big or worth a great deal of money, it is assumed that he must have thought she was "worth" spending the money on.

However, her perceived "value" may be affected by how "rich" her fiancee is. Let's consider 2 scenarios.

Scenario 1:

Rich* man buys a small engagement ring for his girlfriend worth $6,000 which is 1/10 his monthly income of $60,000.
What are you thoughts?

*Let's assume that he's filthy rich by anybody's standards.

Scenario 2:
Man with average salary spends twice his monthly income of $3,000 to buy a $6,000 engagement ring for his girlfriend.
Now, what are you thoughts?

I would think the man #1 is stingy; He thinks that his girlfriend would agree to marry regardless of the size of the ring; He doesn't think she's worthy of receiving an expensive ring. Man #2 "loves" his girlfriend so much that he would work 2 whole months to pay for her ring! But we can also conclude that man #1 is being frugal - it's after all just a useless piece of rock - and man #2 is foolish to spend that much money on a useless piece of rock!

Despite my admission that it's just a useless piece of rock, I am not encouraging men to propose with a pull-tab ring from a drink can like you see in some movie scenes.

15 comments:

David said...

Yu-Kym,

Me thinks you just might have set yourself up for such a proposal, someday.

That is of course if the man you choose for a marriage partner truly values you has a partner.

Likely that man will not be frugal or cheap.

One can hope.

David

Joe said...

Man discuss such topics too... there are fellow camp mates discuss what they bought for their wife... discuss about the clarity size colour shape and from which jewllery shop and the PRICE.

Best thing is that they actually talk behind each other back and commented on the ROCKS the other have bought for their wife.

Not just girls show off their rocks.. ROCKS can be an EGO for some man... Ha.. haa...

Yu-Kym said...

David, unless it's a rare diamond I'd rather have something that grows in value like gold or stocks!

Joe, I am not surprised :P Some guys brag about the expensive branded goods that they buy for their gf/wife. It's so mean to talk about the rocks behind each others backs! The women I know don't do that. I try not to open my eyes too widely when I hear how much some rocks cost so as not to encourage braggarts. I will ask to look at the ring, smile and comment that it's very nice regardless of the size.

skol said...

Somehow I feel that spending more is good, but not to the extent where 2 times the salary, if cost $6000, and salary only $3000, it will take more than 3 months of savings, minus this and that, might take longer.

Yu-Kym said...

skol, if a guy who earns $3000 per month and isn't rich presents me with a $6000 engagement ring, I might ask him to take it back to the shop, (if I want to marry him), we get another ring and say that he can buy me a big rock when he's rich.

David said...

Yu-Kym,

Seriously, you would take stock as a symbol of a man's love for you!

What would be an acceptable stock and number of shares? You need to ensure any possible suitors they know your rules.

Would say 1000 shares of IBM stock, or something more like 100 shares of Berkshire Hathaway A share, BRK.A, that closed today at $123,000.00 USD per share.

Tag - your turn.

David

Yu-Kym said...

David, a good stock grows in value. At least if we need the money in the future, we can sell it. Can't do the same with diamonds.
Berkshire shares, if the can afford to buy me that, he's probably someone who can afford to buy me a rare, auction-able diamond!
Singapore bank shares are ok. Less than SGD20 per share. And Singapore banks will never, never go bust.

Rock Hard said...

Frugal or extravagant?

Nowadays, no one propose with a diamond ring.
They will propose with property ownership instead.
And a sense of security for the future, promising the bride that she will not go hungry or lack of life's pleasure if she marry him.
A diamond ring? So what?
After married, due to the extravagant lifestyle of both husband and wife, they tend to over spend more than they save. In the end, they may suffer in the later years instead.

Yu-Kym said...

My friends who received proposals all have diamond rings leh. It seems diamonds are not as rare as the sellers make it out to be.

Anonymous said...

I say both men in scenarios 1 & 2 are useless men! Dump them! U get hitched with either men, you're gonna end up with problems. Both have serious flaws in their character.

The rock that I buy for my woman will have at least D,E or at worst F colour, clarity flawless or VVS2 minimum, without blemishes and at worst very few very minute practically unnoticeable pinpoints or hairs, etc, very good symmetry, cutting and polish, and must have reliable certification with laser inscription on the rock for identification. It must be at least 1 plus carat or more and it will most likely cost several tens of thousands of S$ at least! or else dont buy! If cannot afford, also dont buy anything lesser. There's no meaning for your top quality girl without a top quality rock.

It's Ok if my friend can show me that he bought his girl an even bigger rock but without the characteristics above and costs like a tenth! I still think it's perfectly fine. To each his own.

But to me as far as diamonds are concerned, I must have top quality, if not I wont buy.

curious cat

Anonymous said...

So Yu-Kym, you are into gold and stocks as a form of dowry?

So if I'm lucky enough to be your bridegroom, would you be agreeable to my suggestion to dispense with a lavish wedding banquet dinner for your relatives and friends and just make do with a respectable table of 10 or more for only immediate members of our two families? And of course the occasion will be marked by just a simple gold or diamond wedding ring on your finger.

And all these savings arising from doing away with the normal traditional chinese wedding requirements, rituals and fads will go to our honeymoon...holidays which you so dearly love and the remaining budget will be converted to some gold pieces and bank stocks of your choosing.

And our kids will be persuaded to give up on their toys and persuaded the wisdom of having bank books, gold bars and stock certificates to play with instead. lol just kidding.

So what do you think of my wedding proposals to you? lol

curious cat

Yu-Kym said...

I won't want a lavish wedding. Friends and relatives hate attending weddings anyway so why bother to spend money on the wedding? Las Vegas style wedding would do just fine. I'm sure my family would be angry at first but they would later be thankful that I saved them the trouble! Kids will only be allowed to play Monopoly :D

Anonymous said...

Hey u guys..listen up! I stand a chance to marry Yu-Kym...yes only a slim chance but at least she didnt reject me outright!

Gosh..i've got a feelin.. tonite's gonna be a good nite.....

curious cat

Yu-Kym said...

Totally hypothetical! Anyway I know it will never happen. Nothing person.

Anonymous said...

Never say never. keke

curious cat