Why I'd rather use my vibrator

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While most people think having sex is better than using a vibrator, it's not true for me. Here's why:

1. Finding a guy whom I'm attracted to (this is the toughest part), going on a date, flirting, listening to him brag, boosting his ego, etc involves some effort whereas the only effort involved in using a vibrator is putting in batteries.

2. I do not have to reciprocate and please the guy.

3. I can roll over and fall asleep if I want to. [Afterplay]

4. I can always get multiple orgasms using my vibrator. Not all guys know what they are doing. [Multiple orgasms in women].

5. I can get it any time I want. No need to check someone else's schedule.

6. We need to find a place to have sex. Sometimes budget hotels are full or all parking slots are taken. [Want more sex?]

7. I do not have to deal with sticky guys who won't stop asking me out again. I am not cruel enough to say that I'm not sleeping with the guy again because he wasn't good in bed. [One night stands]

8. I worry about getting sexually transmitted infections and diseases even if condoms are used.

9. I have a hard time dealing with lies and manipulation. Some guys try to get me to fall in love with them even though they have no intention of having a serious relationship with me. They want me to sleep with or date nobody else. It's a type of possessiveness which I can't tolerate. Did I use him or did he use me? I prefer not to think about such things. [Sex clouds your judgment]

10. I don't like the idea of increasing the number of sex partners I've had. [How many people have you slept with?]

Sex brings me pleasure and excitement but the worries and trouble that come along with it are not always worth it.

Related posts:
[How do women masturbate?]
[Benefits of masturbating]

18 comments:

Anonymous said...

I enjoy reading your blog daily, your postings peel open so many misconception people have in a relationship and sex.

Anonymous said...

:) :) :) good one. Good sense of humor.

Very detail write up on ur travel trip ha. So any plan for any travel trip soon?

Sky

Anonymous said...

I agreed with u. i also can get multiple orgasms by using vibrator. and i can have it anytime and anywhere when bf is not around. i will bring along my little weapon with me whenever i going out for just in case i need it.

walaueh said...

Hi Kym, i found your blog are interesting. This is the first time i left my command, you are brave and very daring to share your thought. How many times you will vibrate yourself in a week? I feel hot sometimes when read your blog. So i fantasize with you.:) hope you dont mind

Kent said...

The points you mention are correct. But it's different feeling at all. It's not a choice between man and vibrator. It's not like if you have this then you lose this. You can have both. i enjoy my wife orgasm few times before we have sex.

Anonymous said...

have you had sex with Gary Ng before
i hink he can satisfact you sex demand

Rock Hard said...

What about the cons of using the Vibrator?

1)It's dun feel warm like the real thing

2)It's difficult to do it hands free

3)Your hand or forearms may get tired from it

4)It doesn't ejeculate for visual delight to
some woman

5)It doesn't tell you how wet and tight you
are.

Anonymous said...

well its like what we men have been doing for ages - masturbating. We do it- anytime and anywhere. Even some with our partner(s) around (woman partner nad man one too! But not me - I'm definitely straight)- don't have to buy expensive tool (vibrator) - just the hand(s), soap and lots of imagination ( I bet many here have you in mine while at it! -- hehehe)

Justin said...

Hi Kym, can we masturbate together sometime sort of a one night stand but no touching at all until we cum and say goodbye forever afterwards. Let me know.. ; )

Anonymous said...

Kim, do not realise that you may be the problem in not getting a man, not the fact you say a good man hard to find, they ain't.
I have one married 12 years and sex is great, i only use a vib with my husband as he loves the vibs on his balls.
I think you need to look at yourself very closely and ask why you ain't got a man, is that bold for you.

Yu-Kym said...

Anon (the last one), I gota say your comment is very nasty and meant to hurt.

Just because you got a man does not mean you any better than women who do not and in no way gives you any right to say there's something wrong with them. Conversely, that mentality shows how flawed You are. If you need to have a man in order to assure yourself that there's nothing wrong with you, then there is something wrong with You.

Unfortunately, many women tend to believe and adopt that mentality.

There are many reason why women are unable to find the right partner - it could be a problem with the women, with the men, or circumstances. Many things in life cannot be controlled.

And even if a some women, do manage to find husbands, does it mean they have succeeded? Some women don't even know their husbands are having affairs or visiting prostitutes. Some women don't know their husbands are raping their children. Husbands will die, sometimes even on the wedding night or before the wedding.

You are fortunate to have a husband and to enjoy sex with him. Is there a need to be nasty instead of have some love for your fellow human beings?

Trust me, I can write nastier things in response but I choose not to. I hope you can make the choice to be nice to other women.

Anonymous said...

hi Yu-kym,
masturbation/use of vibrator have a side effect - you MAY become rather selfish. Over long term, you think of your own self-gratification whenever you need or participate in sex.
Sex shoulf be a very private exchange of intense affection(read - Love) between two persons. Not an indulgence in self gratification.
Your generation is free to experiment with various aspects of sex/sexual relations. You find traditional aspects of sex in a stable relationship, too restrictive. You think - what's so wrong about masterbating?
The wiser ones among us will caution that in the process of discovering/experimenting with your sexual orientation / needs / preferences, you will find the members of the male population may regard you as an undesirable mate/wife/confidant.
Why?
How many man can accept a lady who have been laid by so many other men?
(Yes, we have double standards. That is the way of the world we live in).

Yu-Kym said...

"Sex shoulf be a very private exchange of intense affection(read - Love) between two persons. Not an indulgence in self gratification."
- Many things "should be" this and "should be" that but they just aren't!

"How many man can accept a lady who have been laid by so many other men?"
- How do you know how many men I've been with?

Anonymous said...

Hi Yu-Kym
sex is meant to be an activity where you conmunicate an intense desire to "fused" with your partner. The act itself, contains elements of emotional, physical and biological attachment, amoungst others.
Being such an intimate act, both partners would be far more confident/secured, if they were in a stable and permanent relationship, eg marriage.
In this era where society frowns much less on pre-marital sex, young people do not see anything wrong with discovering their sexual orientation/inclination - by experimenting with many/different partners.
"I need to know what it's all about"; is their justification.
Based on the above background, I caution that masturbation MAY lead to an addiction or preference for sex to be a pleasurable activity that one can indulge in anytime one wishes.
By seeking the pleasure that comes from masturbation, there is a strong possibility of being too focussed on attaining pleasure for oneself; and losing sight of your partner needs!
I discussed this issues with many people in my day, when you treat sex lightly, eg by experimenting liberally, you de-value a very precious means of conveying love.
On the second matter of "how I know how many men you have been with"; your blog seems to indicate/imply a vast experience/inclination in many aspects of sexual acts, eg, oral, fetishes, domineering roles, etc, where a partner would have been involved.
Dont you think most men would prefer a life partner (read - wife) who have not experimented with so many sex partners in her past?
I dont mean to post any dampener on a very rich discussion; and I hope I have not caused any offence.
Just wish to place a cautionary advice for young, liberal-thinking folks.

Yu-Kym said...

I agree that "sex is meant to be an activity where you conmunicate an intense desire to "fused" with your partner". In the same way, the mouth is meant for putting food in.

On how many partners I've been with my blog "seems to indicate/imply a vast experience/inclination in many aspects of sexual acts... where a partner would have been involved."
Are you back-peddling? Or are you still saying that I must have been with many men?

Anonymous said...

Hi Yu-Kym,
I mean the experiences mentioned in your blog indicates you had a partner for each encounter.
As the sex-subjects you have covered ranges very widely, I assume it must have been different partner for each encounter.
My appologies if I assume wrongly.

Anonymous said...

Hi Kym

I may not be as experience as you (sorry for saying this), but I dare say I can make you wanting for more if you dare take up this challenge with me.

Trust me no strings attached.

Boy 25/M

Rock Hard said...

To a very concern Anonymous,
Kym did not have that many sex partner as you perceived.
A lot of people generally thinks a woman who are very liberal and talks a lot about sex are either slut or a nymphomaniac.
It's a blog after all.
Many of the information she wrote here are acquired from other sources from books, internet, tales from friends etc..

Kym in person is not exactly the same as the Kym you read in this blog.

Trust me. I am a very good and close friend of hers. I happen to be a male myself. Yet, we never did anything intimate or immoral other than doing sports or having meal together to discuss how to make this blog more interesting.