Threesome: The fantasy

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Some people have tried it; others can only fantasize about it. Of course, there are prudes who would say it's wrong blah blah blah but I believe most of them would have at least entertained the thought. Now, nobody can prove whether someone in fact did not even think about it so let's not argue about that.

People who would only fantasize about it are those who:
- have no guts to seek it,
- are too lazy to seek it,
- are already in a committed relationship and don't want to be unfaithful,
- are already in a committed relationship and no guts to ask their partner for it,
- have no confidence in handling more than 1 at a time,
- are too fussy,
- are too cautious, and/or
- believe it is inappropriate to do it.

The main reason why threesomes remain a fantasy for most people is:
- men want a 1-male-to-2-females (1m2f) experience, while
- women want 1-female-to-2-males (1f2m) experience.

Like most sexual activities, it's always easier for the female to find partners than the other way round. If a woman is seeking threesomes, it's easy for her to get involved by surfing "dating" websites. I've have seen ads of couples seeking females to join them but seldom ads with couples seeking male partners. It's not difficult for women to get 1f2m experience either. There are guys who don't mind being part of it as long as they don't have to touch or get touched by the other guy.

For (straight) guys to have threesome, they either pay for it, have partners who are very accommodating or liberal, are part of a sexual community, or are very lucky to know women/gals who enjoy sharing a lolly.

I've never had a threesome. It's not because I insist on a 1f2m experience. I've been invited to 1m2f sessions and I've had guys offering to be one of the m in a 1f2m session. Like I said, it's not difficult for a woman to get sexed up but, like all sex-related things I need to at least be attracted to the person or in the case of threesomes, the persons. The other thing which I am concerned about is my own safety. I need to know that I will be "safe". Meaning I won't be forced to do anything that I don't want to do and both partners will practice safe sex at all times. For example, in a 1m2f session, the man should change condoms when he moves on from 1f to another f.

Someone who invited me told me that the participants would start off by chatting casually to get comfortable with one another. If anyone does not feel comfortable, he/she is free to leave. According to him, they practice safe sex and do not force anyone to do anything that he/she does not want; they are all there to have fun and enjoy themselves.

It seems to me like people, especially guys, are not usually picky about their partners. I can't even find 1 partner let alone 2 ! Looks like a threesome would remain a fantasy for me too.

5 comments:

David said...

Yu-Kym,

Fantasies like threesomes are glamorized in film, novels and porn. The reality is closer to what you have described.

A few may brag of being in a threesome, and I an certian most are lying as to impress whomever is listening.

Just like the 15 or 16 year old boy or girl who claims to be "experienced", meaning they have had intercourse. When in fact they never did such.

Bragging often goes along with a carefully crafted image.

"I can't even find 1 partner let alone 2 !"

Again welcome to the real world.

Most people value the loyalty of thier partner.

I have read about many fantasies, seen them in movies, and after all that tripe.

I am happy that I remained loyal. A carefully scripted and acted scene is just that. A scene, fiction, and pure fantasy.

The number of people who actually participate in threesomes is likely very low.

Do not despair as you probably only missing out on the embarassment and discomfort that even very good friends would have when attempting intimacy with two others.

David

~Pink Miu Miu~ said...

I juz had a threesome yesterday.. i mean in my dance video lol :P

Actually ONE is nice, TWO are better but THREE is a crowd.

Unless u are extremely close, otherwise whether u are students or colleagues or travelling partners, somehow if u have odd nos (like 3 or 5 peepz), there's bound to be one 'left out' in engaging certain conversations or activities as usually most social activities or settings come in pairs (eg: seats in public places (cinema), games like bumper cars or roller-coaster, classroom..etc) unless u are in a verry big group then perhaps it's different.

Everyone has his or own fantasy (be it 3some, orgy, exchanging partners, being raped..etc) but these are better left in fantasies..

Rock Hard said...

I think your idea of women finding sexual partner much easier than men is stereotype. If the women looks like Lydia Sum or MIcheal Jackson's surrogate wife of his kids..Do you think an attractive men will go for them?
Unless it's paid. And that means, Men can get sex by paying.
We are talking about getting willing sex partner here.
My conclusion is whether your're a women or a men, if you have the gene, the brain or the wealth, you can get as much partner as you like while stock last.

Anonymous said...

think u are dead sick..its ok to be open but too open really seem like yr life is all SEX and no other substance..omg..

If you are conerned about safety during threesome, (i.e. the guy changing condom before moving from 1f to another f), perhaps then you may wantnto consider 1f2m.

In this way, your vagina will be the only penetration without having fear of safety.

I do agree with youthat you need to becomfortable with the other 2 person before going for a threesome.

Especially when it is 1m2f, you've got to be comfortable with the other f.

Have you ever thought of kissing or caressing another f?