How do women masturbate?

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This post is not for women to learn how to masturbate. Rather, it's to dismiss the idea that most guys have: that women masturbate by inserting something, e.g. a dildo or their fingers, into their vaginas.

(I wonder why really need to be taught how to masturbate. I can understand if they want to learn different ways of doing it but to be looking for a step by step guide, e.g. lock your room door, wash your private parts, warm some lotion between your hands, apply the lotion, etc, is ridiculous.)

There are 2 types of orgasms:
- Clitoral orgasm,
- Vaginal orgasm.
The type of orgasm only describes which part of the body is being stimulated. It does not describe the orgasm intensity, how many orgasms can be achieved or whether there is any squirting / female ejaculation. So obviously, clitoral orgasm is triggered by stimulation to the clitoris while the vaginal orgasm is triggered by penetration and/or G-spot stimulation.

A particular person, Sigmund Freud, claimed that clitoral orgasms were something that women would outgrow during puberty. I think it's complete bullshit - I still love my clitoral orgasms. Why would anyone trust a man to tell them about female orgasms anyway? Thankfully, sex experts these days do not agree with Freud's claim.

Each woman has a different concentration of tissues and nerve endings in different places. This affects what she would like.
E.g. women who have more tissues and nerves at the clitoris than in the vagina would prefer clitoral stimulation over penetration/coitus. They might be unable to or have difficulty reaching orgasms from coitus only.

In a survey by Shere Hites in 1976, only 30% of 3000 women responded that they were regularly about to reach orgasms through coitus. Other recent studies indicate that about 50-75% of women need clitoral stimulation and are unable to reach orgasms through intercourse alone. From these findings I conclude that it is unlikely for most women to masturbate only by inserting some object into their vaginas. Rather, most women masturbate by rubbing their clitoris with objects (pillow or bolster), with their fingers, or vibrators like vibrating bullets or those with "rabbit ears" that stimulate the clitoris. Of course, there are women who enjoy inserting objects like fruit (banana, cucumber, etc) or even sharp objects but this topic best left to another post, if I ever want to write about it.

33 comments:

Anonymous said...

thanks for the info. one day, we can masturbate together, LOL Just kidding. but kodus to u for ur bravery to blog bout masturbating

Anonymous said...

Masturbating does not generally refer to guys...Women also can masturbate. For myself, i will prefer to rubbing my clitoris and penetrating vagina with vibrator. It is only a temporary solution while waiting for penis penetration.

Anonymous said...

....some of us guys, are always ready to hear some "tips" on what to do,and how how to please you ladies. Sex isn't a battle to get yourself pleased first, but a mutual exploration, and enjoyment of your partner.
K.M.

Joe said...

Dear Goddess reading your entry makes me flush.

Anonymous said...

Women masturbate quite often - usually atleats onc ein 2 days. Its just taht tehy r not quite open to talk about the way mn are. And yes reaching through clitoris is what works for most women. Masturbation is nayway fun to have atleast once a day!

Anonymous said...

Above, where u get the info that women usually masturbate atleast once in 2 days?

I do have masturbate but i only do it once or twice a week. If i had make love with bf in that week, there will be none.

I think guys tend to masturbate more often than gals as their sex organ is more sensitive and gals will be the victims when they are out of control.

Anonymous said...

my gf do masturbate on a regular basis, especially when we make love, she loves to show me how she masturbate, sometime she can make it to 3-4 times non stop. i guess she likes me to watch her doing it. then we will hv long long time make love.if not, she will lost interest very fast.

Anonymous said...

recently my gf asked me to thrust my index finger in to her pussy at a fast pace while she rub her own C spot. I bent my finger a little to tickel her inside. I could feel her pussy contracting and expending. I think she enjoyed it but what a weird nympho.
KFR

Yu-Kym said...

KFR, what so weird about enjoying the fingering??

Anonymous said...

Girls use bolster in front their groin and their back lying again's the bed while the boys use the bolster sandwitch between the bolsters and the bed...>the missionary position. Pretty Obvious. Saw it with my own eyes when I was young by accident.

Yu-Kym said...

People do it differently according to what they enjoy. Can't say that all girls lie on the backs when they use the bolster.

Anonymous said...

I prefer to ride on the bolster as i can thrusting on it easily. I will lie down on my back if i m fingering.

Anonymous said...

Whew!!

Anonymous said...

I masturbate at least once a day!!!

Anonymous said...

Hi Yu-Kym,

i had sexual intercourse with my gf. As i thrust her she would scream and ask me to thrust faster.....I could see that her vagina secretes out lots of juice out. Is it estrogen or my semen? When i reach climax i would ejeculate my sperm in her vagina during her non fertile period. She said its very warm the sperm and she said her vagina as if drinking in all the sperm. is it true vagina is so amazing yah....gets thirsty as well.

Anonymous said...

im into clitoral orgasm

Although I have frequent sex in general but I still masturbate at least once daily.I love to insert a finger into my anus while rubbing my clit until I cum.I also love using dildos and vibrators while masturbating so I can squirt a lot.

Anonymous said...

Clitoral orgasm for me too, for sure. I love cuming with my pillow in between my thighs and watching good old-fashion porn :)

Anonymous said...

Where can I find dildos and vibrators in malaysia???

Yu-Kym said...

Many shops in Malaysia were raided recently:
http://yu-kym.blogspot.com/2010/03/when-its-game-over-for-sex-toy-shops.html
You can try buying "massagers" instead.

gin said...

come to Singapore, There are many sex toy shops in Geylang, Paninsular or Orchard Tower and Orchard Plaza.

Yu-Kym said...

I find the ones in Singapore rather expensive. The range is limited.

robertmartin said...

To my experience with my two GFs, I think both of them like the Clitoral orgasm.
The easiest way to achieve Clitoral orgasm is by kissing their pussy in a way they like it.
The stiffness of your tongue play a major role too.

Anonymous said...

mingfu - how do you masturbate ?? tell me more how you do it .

Darren said...

Kym whats ur fav way to masturbate? =)

Anonymous said...

how many time u masturbate & this week hv u hv sex n with who & do u enjoy it & how ?

Anonymous said...

how often do you masturbate and how you will do it ??

Anonymous said...

so Kym how did u first learn? by instinct or reading or viewing a film? I first know of by hearing from friends but learnt the real way by vido

flyboy

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This topic really turns me on. Now I can get more tips here on your blog.

arriiipu said...

whom you saw accidentally that masturbating with bolster pillow with that pose? Give detail procedure.reply plzzz..... I also prefer my soft bolster pillow at night.

Anonymous said...

Gosh,

I think I have enough imagination to visualise how a girl masturbates with a bolster....but I can also visualised the awful stains and smell left on the pillow.

Fortunately, my ex gf dont possess a bolster pillow! Or I would have felt disgusted how I manage to survive cohabitation with her so many years with the bolster alongside us. lol

curious cat

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