Virginity: Prized or despised?

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If you asked someone whether he/she is a virgin and he/her response is "What is virginity?", here's what you can conclude:
- If it's a guy, he's probably a virgin;
- If it's a gal, she's probably not a virgin.

Is virginity something to be treasured and sought after? I suppose the perception can be very different depending on whether you're a guy or gal, and your religious and cultural beliefs.

Do men like or dislike having sex with virgin gals? I think some do and some don't. One guy mentioned to me that having sex with a virgin gal or a gal with a very tight vagina can be painful for him. He said he gets tired of having to "drive a car through a door". If you're a guy and this sounds foreign to you, you probably aren't very big. [Check how you measure up here: Does size matter - Part 1].

I don't know why men would like to have sex with virgins. Perhaps it's because of cultural and religious influences, e.g.:
- To the traditional Chinese, a gal who isn't a virgin before marriage is considered "used" and worthless,
- Virginity is the most valuable thing to a Japanese Geisha,
- Throughout Asia, the highest sexual market value is attached to virgins,
- Muslims martyrs would be rewarded with virgins in their after-lives,
- Loss of one's virginity before marriage is a sin in Christianity.

I don't suppose virgins would be much fun in bed the first time round, would they? My first time wasn't fun for me and I certainly wasn't in the mood to "perform" when I was in pain and bleeding. However, the guy who deflowered me certainly seemed to have enjoyed it very much. When I bled the 2nd time too and he seemed extremely pleased. (Does that mean he had sex with a double virgin?)

What kind of man would like to have sex with virgins?
- I think a 1-minute-man definitely would because virgins won't know any better! [1-minute-man vs Micropenis]
- A man who thinks virgins don't have sex diseases and that he can "safely" have unprotected sex with virgins. I hope he realises that it is possible for gals to get themselves sewn back up to fake virginity and for children to have sex disease.
- One who likes the thought or feeling of ripping someone apart.

Do gals like having sex with virgin guys? I'm sure some do, evident from the cases of middle-aged female teachers having sex with their under-aged male students (in addition to having pedophilic tendencies). Personally, I prefer a man who knows his way around. I don't think I want to deal with pre-mature ejaculation problems of a virgin guy or having to teach him stuff. I'm not saying that virgin guys are always less skillful than experienced guys - it's quite likely it could be the other way round!

What do people think of male and female virgins over a certain age? You can find out from the movie "40-year-old virgin".

13 comments:

Anonymous said...

You are not a virgin. Yipee!

Anonymous said...

Why do people like to read about sex? Why is this a sex blog when there is no nudity?

Anonymous said...

i agree with the comment above. time for kym to show more skin

Yu-Kym said...

Oh you were expecting porn? I'm in "most insightful blog" category not "most insideful blog" :P You can check those in the Modeling category - might be closer to what you're looking for...

mondo said...

Yu-Kym, you do write beautifully and straight from the heart. Refreshing to read an unpretentious blog and a view point similar to mine. Great stuff.

Yu-Kym said...

Thanks mondo! It's good to know I'm not alone!

Anonymous said...

If i were given a chance to get my virginity back, i would like to have it with a "know how" partner. My first time was about pain like hell when i had it with a first time guy.

Yu-Kym said...

Sex the first time can be painful for most women cos if the hymen is intact and it tears, there would be some pain involved. Of course having a caring partner who tries to make you feel relaxed and spends enough time foreplay helps. As for a "know how" partner, not sure what kind of know how you prefer. If he's had lots of experience with virgins, won't that be questionable and would you even want to sleep with him?

Anthony said...

Anonymous probably felt a lot of pain because your 1st time partner do not spend more time on foreplay to get you relaxed and lubricated. Normally there will some slight pain for just a few seconds and not pain like hell.

Yu-Kym said...

Anthony, the experience would vary from woman to woman. Different people have different levels of pain endurance, the partners' penis size might be different too, etc. So the lack of foreplay is not necessarily the cause of pain.

Anonymous said...

Virginity these days are a rarity. I would also dare say... in general, a 30 yr old who is still a virgin have some issues within himself or herself that needs some sorting out, reconciliation or recognition and acceptance.

curious cat

Anonymous said...

Virgin or not, what's of utmpost importance is "zi ai" (ability to love yourself).

Anonymous said...

I say love yourself, love by another and love this other in return is best!

Love only oneself is terribly lonely.

curious cat