Sex addiction

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I wrote in a previous post about addictions vs passion. Today I would like to consider sex addiction and having a high sex drive.

A high sex drive just means having sexual urges or desire that's higher than the average or normal person. A sex addiction, however, involves:
- lack of control
- psychological distress if the person is unable to perform the act of sex, masturbation, porn, etc - spending a significant amount of time on the activity, in preparation for it, or to recover from it
- withdrawal symptoms if one attempts to limit the sexual behaviour
- a need to increase the frequency or intensity of the sexual activity
- neglect of other activities such as social activities, work, family obligations, pastimes, etc.

A person can have a high sex drive without being addicted to sex. I don't think thinking about sex often is sex addiction. Most normal people would think of sex throughout the day. As long as it doesn't lead to uncontrollable behaviour it's not an addiction. Many sex seekers claim to have high sex drives. But I wonder: do they have high sex drives or are they sex addicts? Maybe they don't even know that sex addiction exists. I only found out about it half a year ago. Realisation was my first step to recovery.

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3 comments:

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Anonymous said...

Hi there,

Universally accepted definitions on sex addiction...by DSM

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Psychiatric Disorders, Volume Four describes sex addiction, under the category “Sexual Disorders Not Otherwise Specified,” as “distress about a pattern of repeated sexual relationships involving a succession of lovers who are experienced by the individual only as things to be used.” According to the manual, sex addiction also involves “compulsive searching for multiple partners, compulsive fixation on an unattainable partner, compulsive masturbation, compulsive love relationships and compulsive sexuality in a relationship.”

Anonymous said...

Quote "I only found out about it half a year ago. Realisation was my first step to recovery".

Yu-Kym,

It would be interesting to know. So pls explain background to the above remarks.

silli cat