Rough sex

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Some guys have asked me whether I like rough sex. Before answering, I always ask them what they mean by "rough". I think rough involves some amount of force from dominance but not to the extent of violence (like rape).

I think there's something nice about rough sex: letting a guy have his way with me, tugging at my hair and making me give him a blowjob or doing what he wants. It seems women are turned on by this because rough sex gives the idea of having sex with a dominant alpha male - alpha males are always more attractive than lesser males. Some people think that women who like rough sex must have been sexually abused in the past. But I think victims of sexual abuse would be less likely to enjoy rough sex.

I don't like role-playing anything about rape. I think rape is very very wrong and rapists deserve to have their dicks cut off and minced. I feel very disturbed when I think about, read or watch movies about rape as a weapon of war, children and even babies raped, rape of the sisters or children of convicts as punishment and date rape.

I was almost date-raped. I was involved with a guy for some time but we never had sex. One day we were on his bed and we both had all our clothes off. He was on top of me and I told him that I didn't want to have sex. He held me down and wanted to enter me. I asked him to stop but he proceeded to position himself while holding me down. I realised that whatever I say wasn't going to work. He looked at me just when he was about to enter me and I tried to tell him again using my eyes. Fortunately, it worked and he backed off. He immediately apologised. He thought it was foreplay when I said "No" and only realised that I was serious when he saw the look in my eyes. I believed him and forgave him. We continued our relationship for a while more before other people came into our lives. We are still friends now.

Perhaps if I was raped, I wouldn't like rough sex now. My suggestion: before trying rough sex on your partner it would be better to find out her preference, set some ground rules, have a code word for stopping and while having sex watch out for signs of distress.

25 comments:

Anonymous said...

can we get naked together?

Anonymous said...

Sex on Roids..

You'll be in the intensive unit over the weekend babe..
Touchy topics to talk about.
Very subjective.
Man get super excited may be projected as rough..


MR choo

Illuminati said...

Wow. You both got naked and you told him no and if he continued its date rape. Somehow it doesnt seem like date rape even if he continued. I wondered how you figured that out though.

Fielder said...

Good enticement and a very good anti-climax.

honest guy said...

Being naked with a guy on a bed and say "no" to sex is kinda rude to a guy. I do respect your decision not tohave sex, but better off not naked next time

Savahn said...

There is an anti-rape poster targeted at men that reads:
My strength is not for hurting. So when I wanted to, and she didn't, WE didn't

Being naked or not, when she says no, it's a NO.

Yu-Kym said...

In my post I mentioned "I was involved with a guy for some time but we never had sex." There are other things to do while naked besides penetration. Regardless, I don't think he should assume that we were going to have sex just because we were naked. Normal men would never force themselves on women no matter how horny they feel.

whimwham said...

I like Savahn's comment, and Yu-Kym, you refuted "honest guy" well.

Anti-Vaginazi said...

"I think rape is very very wrong and rapists deserve to have their dicks cut off and minced."
No.Truly evil men like Josef Mengele and Idi Amin who cut off men's and babies dicks are the ones who should have their dicks cut off.NOT rapists.And if women cut off dicks,then their breasts and clit should be cut off.
You talk a great deal about war rape victims but you don't bother to talk about prisoners of war whom soldiers castrated just because they felt like it.

Anti Vaginational-Socialist said...

Plus what the hell were you doing naked in the first place. Playing a prank on him by promising sex and then backing out?
I can play pranks too by holding an exhibit of BMWs then when people take out cash to pay,I tell them "Oops not for sale!Got you.Ahahaha".
So no,pranksters shouldn't get raped but smacked but I don't think you will answer this but rather ban me instead.Your welcome to do so :P

Anonymous said...

Yu-Kym,

You were sure dicing with big trouble and living on the edge. lol

Yes, being naked doesnt necessarily mean you permit penetration. But it sure confuses the man especially if he is a "normal" man!

Fortunately for you and for whatever reason he himself only knows, he stopped in time either because he suddenly came to think "right" or he feared the consequences.

If that night had gone horribly wrong for you he surely would have been convicted and suffered the ignominy of this shameful act. You too would have not only suffered the emotional or physical scars of a rape but in court you would also be hung out to dry for your naivety and foolishness.

I believe you are the wiser for it now. You must have counted your lucky stars that night. hehe

curious cat

Anonymous said...

Anti Virginzi,

Why, you dont think rapists are in the same league of vermins as Mengele and Amin?

My love-one used to say in cantonese and I translate as follows: "eat shit, shit rice". Essentially it means RIDICULOUS!

That's what I think too if you believe rapists are a shade better!

curious cat

Anonymous said...

Anti Vaginational-Socialist,

I believe Yu-Kym did not have any intention to deceive the poor guy. Me thinks it's a combination of innocent naivety, immaturity that everyone goes through during a stage of youthful recklessness and curiousity about sex.

Yu-Kym just threaded a little too close to the edge but escaped unscath. Some ppl are lucky!

In life, when sometimes you lack wisdom, you need luck. lol

curious cat

Anti Vaginational-Socialist and Honorary Vaginaryan said...

"My love-one used to say in cantonese and I translate as follows: "eat shit, shit rice". Essentially it means RIDICULOUS!

That's what I think too if you believe rapists are a shade better!"

And I have response that can be written in Chinese as well.It's not a saying but rather one word only. "Pui!"
That's what I think when you think rape is equal to castration.And yes,rapists are not in the same league as them.
Want me to name you 3 celebrity rape "victims" who went on to show the world how unaffected their lives were after rape?
You are a disgrace to your own gender.And don't tell me that being a real man is to protect women bla bla.That is reverse propaganda to teach you to betray your own gender so you smile while the woman you protect holds a knife to your groin.

Anti-Vaginazi said...

"Why, you dont think rapists are in the same league of vermins as Mengele and Amin? "

The point was that Feminazi propagandists use rapists as an excuse for men to be castrated but never call for dictators who castrated prisoners to be castrated.They don't call for rapists who raped boys to be castrated either.And worst of all,despite being Feminazis,they don't want to even help their own females who have their vaginas mutilated during wars since they never called for castration of people who "castrated" these girls

Anti Vaginational-Socialist said...

self-neutering cat,
Now come to think of it,wasn't it you who said wives should cut their husbands penises off?By right,just for saying that,somebody should kick you in the groin.Outwardly you obviously should look like a man,but all woman on the inside.If you like female beliefs so much,you better go under the knife and join their gang

Anonymous said...

Anonymous anti-vagina this vagina that, socialist this nationalist that, honorary this aryan that...are you psycho or what! lol

The degree of frustration and angst you exhibit shows that you are trying hard to overcome some unpleasant events in your childhood. Perhaps you have been tragically and horribly sexually abused. Or you must also have been castrated. And now you are probably some form of creature in limbo. Even an eunuch or a transgender has a place on earth. But you? hmmmmmm lol

Even the elaborate pseudonyms you tag to yourself shows how weird and a freak you have become.

You are such a pitiful soul, I should leave you alone to your troubles. Sigh.... I will not heighten your agony further in case you become the next Mengele or Amin or a serial rapist. lol hahahaha

curious cat

Anti Vaginational-socialist said...

"You are such a pitiful soul, I should leave you alone to your troubles. Sigh.... I will not heighten your agony further in case you become the next Mengele or Amin or a serial rapist. lol hahahaha

neutered cat"

Why.Cannot answer ah?You totally avoid the subject altogether because you have no capability to answer or because you truly are a traitor to your own gender but cannot admit.
Your method of answering "I'm right you are wrong bye bye" shows you have a retarded brain.
If you want to speak cantonese then I shall tell you 'yao pun see gong yeh mo pun see sau teh.'

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Anonymous said...

Rough sex is fun, provided both parties are aware what they are doing. Rape is definately a big NO NO. Not to talk about legality, which you will sure land in deep shit, talk about humanity. Ever wonder how the victim will feel and have to face? Do you like people to dig you nose forcefully without your permission?

Daniel

Yu-Kym said...

Rapists' brains are wired differently. They actually enjoy thinking about how the victims face.

Soft Release said...

Rough sex is sex without love.

And just what is sex without love?

Ask the animals: they do it all the time.

Soft Release said...

Gals should be the object of LOVE and not the object for sex. It demeans them.

Anonymous said...

hi babe, you look great and if I was the guy on top, I will really think it was a pity "not entered" given such a great opportunity :)))