Do/say first, apologise later

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I read today that Rihanna is back together with Chris Brown. Wait... didn't he just beat her up recently? It seems he apologised. It's so easy for him to just say "Sorry" after freely doing what he did.

Has anyone ever said or done something to hurt you in a moment of anger, then apologised for it later saying "Sorry, I didn't mean it"? Forgiving the person for the action is one matter, but do you really believe that he/she didn't mean it? Surely the words or actions had to come from somewhere! On the flip side, there are people who shout "I love you" or "Marry Me" in a moment of ecstasy. Did they mean it too?

It so easy to say what we want and do what we want without caring that someone else might get hurt emotionally or physically. Like ashes scattered into the sea, words or deeds cannot be unsaid or undone.

7 comments:

Calvin said...

I do agree what you said. But when you in love deeply with someone, you won't be care so much is it apologized so important. Let said if Rohanna no more love him, would it be so easy to accept his apologized ?
This is what we said : love is blind ... :( and feeling can't be explain.
In the world, how many ppl can put them self into others' shoe before they act something or say something ..right ??

Yu-Kym said...

I agree with you that not many people will put themselves into someone else's shoes. In relationships, their words/actions will not only harm the other person and also themselves, e.g. maybe Rihanna won't take Chris back.

Anonymous said...

Love is blind....really blind.. I've friend's who partner is a basher.. yet each time after being bashed they will leave them but only to return when they apologized..and go thru the cycle again.. I'll say.. once a basher, always a basher..sad but true...

Yu-Kym said...

I don't have personal encounters with bashers but I think generally leopards don't change their spots...

Anonymous said...

I agree that generally leopards dont change their spots. Again generally...coz i believe there are exceptions...some (but few) do change completely.

But there are also many leopards who manage to lighten their spots very much for the better, but not completely able to eradicate the spots altogether. They are fortunate to have the stars shine on them, meeting the right ppl, to receive good counselling and guidance to improve their lives for the better. Perhaps more time will see complete results.

But the bashers and their likes thrive on manipulating the weak and helpless, those with litte education, intelligence or wisdom, those without the good fortune to meet ppl who can rescue them, those wihout the means or the willpower to escape from the almost always strong crutches of the wicked. Sadly there are many bashers as there are victims for them to prey on.

curious cat

Yu-Kym said...

I agree that counselling and guidance plays a part. This applies to the victims too. If they receive guidance from the wrong people, they will continue to be victims.

Anonymous said...

As in everything else in this unfair world, the victims are generally the less bright, the less wise, the weak-minded and the poorly educated without the means to advance themselves and get out of the bashers' grip!

curious cat